Chinese Warrior

Conflict Resolution Top Level Options


When challenged by banishment, or the welcoming committee what can we do?

The most important suggestion for almost all of these exercises is to write down our concerns. Especially if we're emotionally distraught. We need to get past our anger to problem solve at all. Please see Problem Solving Training, or Step Primer for a more complete description of how to do so, including worksheets you can use in the safety of your home or shelter.

  • We could file charges if we believe we know who's responsible for violating our Human Rights.
  • We could try to rebuild our good character by being open with our lives as in a political or marketing play by being transparent. Please see: Public Relations Campaigns
  • We can work with the angry parties themselves by reaching out to address their concerns before the grievance becomes a personal problem or a public issue by using: Self Advocacy (Ironic terms aren't they?) Beware of this option if you have not fully understood the Nature of Your Wrongs, or if the parties are violently angry. Seek Professional Advice if necessary.
  • Before abandoning hope, and perhaps as the best option, try: Self Examination, Problem Solving, or a tried and true solution like the 12 Step Program Steps to be sure of what you're doing before using blame at all, but the point here is to get good at both self-examination, and working for change.

You might not think you're guilty of a crime, but others might. The lack of assistance and abandonment we sometimes face may be based upon blame we are unaware of. Matter of fact, crimes I've tried to get something done about may have led criminals to cast doubt upon me well enough to shift blame, show motive, or avoid accountability based upon my own judgements, or lack thereof. And when we're open about what we resent, we can be easily manipulated by our own anger. Please see: 12 Step Program Steps

Though you might not think you've lost your cool about the situation, the frustration and anger that result from blame are in fact a form of insanity, and though you may actually have a case....tactics of denial may lead to labels that indicate that you're not competent with the truth. An example of how sinister that can become can be seen by this example: Depressed people are usually more accurate about reality than happy people are! Happy people are more often deluded, or at a minimum, unrealistically optimistic than the depressed and worse! Please see: Network Interference

You may plead "Guilty, but Not Guilty by Reason of Insanity" if you are guilty of a crime, but did not know it, or did not know what you were doing at the time.

Or you may plead "Not Competent to Stand Trial" if you or professionals do not believe you know the difference between right and wrong and seek treatment for your condition, but you are likely to serve the maximum sentence for your crime in a treatment setting, and when you are done there is no guarantee you will be released.

You could plead for a "Restoration of Sanity" if you believe you now know that you have done wrong, and are prepared for re-entry, but you may not survive the rigors of community based evaluation and testing and may return to supervised care and treatment modalities in a treatment setting until you are prepared to surrender completely to any form of aggression and control that may exist in the community as a result of the behavior you now realize is wrong.

Try this yourself!

It's easy to see when you keep a log. Take a good look at your complaints. Let them sit for a few days, and then look at them again. Almost invariably, we find later that we had something to do with the injury ourselves, and that by trying to blame others, we made matters worse.

Even if someone else is to blame, can we realistically expect them to change for us? How easy was it for you to, for example, quit using foul language etc? So many people fall into this trap I developed this Mission to try to help people to deal with it. It can be literally humiliating.

An example of the results of public complaints can be found here: Log

Adaptation in the Digital Age

During the Dark Ages, shortly after the fall of Rome, many believed the period to be dark because keeping records was abandoned while others claim that to call the Early Middle Ages dark is unfair; after all, the Renaissance resulted. But we live with problems like Fake News, and a breach of security on our networks that results in theft or misrepresentation that has cost us dearly.

I'm citing by way of example a video that is harshly critical of some, in order to defend many others who've suffered with cruelty. The question here really isn't about being fair, it's about whether reporting on this level can be accomplished at all. As a matter of fact, the publication of this video is banned in the country where the complaint took place.

Many of us are confronted by various forms of obstruction and harassment while making claims online, and most of us have learned to identify who we are and where we live just to be able to field the complaints to resolve the matter.

What can we do when confronted by life threatening circumstances, criminal exploitation or defamation?

The terrifying reality of confrontation online today is that even if we are completely sure of what we've expressed, we may still defied by those who write over our copy by way of hacking or servers to write word salads, or hate speech to ensure the complete removal of our opportunity to express ourselves in this forum and elsewhere.

And we may complain about baffling professional intervention, but by hiding behind esoteric language, or statistical analysis, information can become so obscure and meaningless that we'll become distracted from our conflicts or conclusions to overlook the injustice of a situation out of concern for someone else's feelings. The difference is that no one has been offended, but what we're looking for is good character, and that includes the debate of a dispute to some kind of resolution.