Events during 1990 prior to a Hate Crime in 1998

Events Prior

A Police Report dated 2-28-1990 describes behavior that isn't mine. I lived peacefully with my Grandmother for many years tending to our home, and earning my degree at the University. I also worked nights at the local freight docs and attended graduate school at Northwestern during years prior to my graduation. By 1990, I was a year away from graduation, and was enjoying over 10-years of continuous sobriety. I had student loans, earned income, and was working, studying, and taking care of my grandmother, and her home. I had no need to steel money, and I had my own checking account (which was sanctioned by a bank I've been a member of since 1976).

Events Following

2015: But the missing checks may also refer to my failure to attend to my best friends injury in the mid 1960s. He fell down between our property, and the neighbors (on the border of our yards), while I was practicing a bat swing. I was aiming for a spot across the street, and didn't realize that the bat would hit him. I told his mother that he fell down and went back to my room, but apparently didn't check his condition well enough (I don't remember what happened to him). By today's standards, I failed in several other areas as well. We didn't have cell phones (it was 1966 or '67), and I was only 6 or 7 years old. I didn't know how to use the phone in our house, and wasn't prepared to find the number for the ambulance in the phone book. I've also covered this topic at: Confessions, and in Articles.

Upon Reflection

2022: The problems we encountered in our shame based family were most likely the result of Alcoholism, but because my mother was in the process of transferring my grandmother's home to her name, she was taking yearly gifts of $10,000.00 (as advised by an attorney) to prevent the property from becoming an obstacle to Grandma's opportunity to obtain County Assistance for her housing and health care. The checks referred to in this statement may have been a clever reference to that activity, or a loose reference to my own investigation of a medical practice I was suspicious of.